When I hear this stuff I hear someone desperate for help, someone who is terrified of life and not willing to look inwards. I hear someone happy to blame others and accept no responsibility for their life.

I hear FEAR.

You see, its isn’t always easy to be happy, shit, sometimes it’s hard!

Life is riddled with pains and challenges, we feel pain peppered throughout our every day and it can be tricky.

AND this is where those ‘scoffers’ get self development and positive thinking WRONG. Positive thinking isn’t about some Stepford wife, smiling through gritted teeth, fake positivity.

It isn’t about denying the hard stuff in life, that is a total myth and if you are being taught that by any self help ‘gurus’ then you need to UNFOLLOW sharpish.

There are even those out there that see peaceful, positive thinking types and have the foolish and ill advised opinion that these people are WEAK.

If you think that, then you, my darling, are wrong.

It’s WAY easier to opt out of trying, to get in line and just let life batter you around like a pin ball, WAY EASIER.

What’s hard is making a decision to be happy no matter what. To work on your mindset every dam day, to meditate, do affirmations, protect you mind, guard your thoughts, go against the grain, stop comparing yourself, to lose the negative friends, to zone out the bitching, the moaning, the noise.

Now THAT is hard.

There is nothing weak about making strong decisions and fighting the urge to submerge your mind in negative thinking. Negativity is everywhere and we are fed it in our magazines, news, across our social media, so to go against that is hard. It sometimes feels like dodging bullets scrolling through Facebook, just waiting for the next ‘dog who’s been attacked post’, or the ‘string up the paedophile’ viral message to avoid.

Deciding to live a positive life, regardless of the hard stuff that will come your way, is HARD and BRAVE.

HOWEVER, when you make that a habit, when you TRAIN your mind, in the same way you train those gym bodies, you see changes, you see it gets easier, you feel it become second nature and suddenly it’s just who you are.

I have had hard stuff go on, not as bad as many of you, but still hard and we ALL live with hard stuff every day, but we have a choice and I promise you if you decide you want to learn techniques and train your mind to become more positive, you will never regret that.

So scoffer, go scoff and while you’re rolling your eyes I shall be laughing and enjoying my life, while you’re moaning about your ‘cousins neighbours friend, whose boyfriend was cheating on her and she’s now seeing this other bloke that…..'(yawn!) I will be meeting people who inspire me and grow me, I will be living a life I created, not one I settled for.

I hope that you find calm in your world and if I can help even a handful of people with how to do that, I will feel like I won and when I see your posts of negativity I will sincerely wish you well and truly hope that you find the strength to start making more positive decisions.

So is positive thinking a load of old bollocks? Your life will be the proof (either way)

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